It can get even worse when families are involved

If you are in a situation where you have been waiting to have sex for a long time, [and this applies to both men and women] you may find that when that magic moment happens and you are alone and naked you are unable to rise to the occasion!

In the case of women this usually manifests itself in the form of something called Vaginismus which is when the vaginal muscles spontaneously contract and tighten up preventing any form of penetration. This is not an intentional act but merely a physiological reaction to some form of psychological nervousness or anxiety. Young women who are not sexually experienced and who know very little about sex may suffer from Vaginismus on their wedding night which could cause stress between the couple if they are not aware of what is happening. 

In the case of men, nervousness about the big night could mean that they cannot get an erection when they need one despite the fact that they have been dreaming about this night for ages and even getting sexually aroused just thinking about it. This condition which is sometimes called Performance Anxiety is probably the second biggest cause of erectile dysfunction after vascular blockages in the penile artery. 

In the case of sexually inexperienced men who come from conservative societies where sex is not spoken about and they have little or no information about what they are supposed to do the problem can be greatly accentuated. It can get even worse when families are involved and there is the pressure to produce a pregnancy.

Taking your time and relaxing is the secret for good and healthy sex. Inexperienced couples should take a long time getting to know each others bodies and not automatically try and have penetrative sex. Massages, hot baths and intimacy should be the modus operandi so that confidence builds up and both parties feel comfortable about having full blown sex.